THE DAY AFTER 7/10

As I move further into my 20s, I find that I tend to feel happier the day after my birthday. The pressure to be visibly happy is reduced greatly as is the pressure to do things you’d rather never do for the sake of social media.

I’ve found that there tends to be so much pressure put on birthdays and it starts from childhood. I’m sure some of us can still remember the days of primary school when we’d share goody bags. And there was always that one person who had everything in their goody bags. So we’d go home and wonder why we didn’t have all that stuff in our goody bags and then resolve to change it up on our next birthdays. Except by then, the goalposts would have changed once again and the cycle and questions would continue, and the pressure would increase.

I don’t do well with pressure. It makes my heart race and gives me what I call pressure paralysis. It makes me feel extremely anxious like I’m back in Law School, up on stage in front of 5,000 people and I know what I’m supposed to say but the words won’t come out and I start having a panic attack.

I figured out a hack that has helped me greatly: if the pressure to do something a certain way is choking you, scrap that idea and do it another way.

My birthday was yesterday and I did nothing out of the ordinary. I had planned this birthday to the last second, I’d have 2 cakes, small chops, juice, I’d have professional pictures taken, I’d go out and turn up etc etc. And then on the week of, I noticed I had literally no energy to do anything towards that. So in the end, I did absolutely nothing. No cakes, no professional pictures, de nada.

What surprises me is the peace of mind I had yesterday. I’d bought small chops and asun for the ones who gave me life on Friday and I’d praised the One who made it worth living on the day of and there was no one and nothing for whom I had to pretend anything for. So relaxing.

It’s the day after my birthday today and what started out as a thank you post has now become an op-ed. 😊
Getting back to the purpose of this post, I’d like to say a HUGE thank you to my village. The people who stand by me every day, every time. My brothers, Olayinka, Ayomide, Joy, Fifi, Mobi, Tomi, Rukayat, Yanmife, Nedoux, Bisola, my cousins, my uncles, my aunties etc etc etc.

I’M SO GRATEFUL I GET TO DO LIFE WITH YOU ALL!

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Review: Anie’s Handmade Store

A short while ago, a friend of mine contacted me and asked me to do a review of the products she’d begun selling. So many thoughts ran through my mind:

Yay! Free stuff!
What if I don’t like the products?
I’m happy she’s taking this passion further.

I told her the truth: I’d never done a review on my blog before and she was the first to ask me. She insisted. I hesitated a bit further. Then a cousin of mine (I’ve got quite a number of them) saw my BBM profile message. I was advertising one of the products (the whipped butter mix) for sale. I offered to get her some. So I contacted my friend to purchase the products and I asked her to send along a product she’d like me to review.

THE REVIEW:

Before I get into it, here’s a picture detailing what the store sells:

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I ordered the whipped butter mix and I was assigned the Black soap scrub to review. I’ll review both.

WHIPPED BUTTER MIX

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PROS:

1. Size – I’d only seen pictures of it and it was advertised as travel size. Pictures can make things appear larger than normal so I had a full afternoon to wonder if I’d get a tiny jar filled three-fourths to the brim. I was very pleasantly surprised. In my estimation, I can use one of the mixes for up to 3 months. 5 if I stop using it to keep my feet warm from the cold. And since harmattan haff finish…

2. Price – The whipped butter mix has a lot of ingredients- water, vanilla infused cocoa butter, vitamin E and B3, coconut oil etc etc. In the size it came in, I believe N350 is quite reasonable. And budget friendly too.

3. Delivery – I placed my order with my friend around 1PM. The courier service – JUWON MARKET delivered the products to me by 8PM at my church. I’d never heard of them beforehand. But the deliveryman was nice. He called me most of the time, didn’t mind when I didn’t give him a tip and best of all- he didn’t smell of alcohol. So I’m advertising them for free. 😀

4. Multiplicity of Use – The whipped butter mix can be used on the skin as well as the hair. And trust me I’ve used it on both various times. My lips, my hands and feet and as a twisting cream for my hair. I liked it best as a hand and foot cream. It’s sufficiently thick enough. As a twisting cream I found it a bit too thick and in need of dissolution and whenever I use it as a lip balm I end up licking it off.

5. The products are organic – All the products in the line are advertised as being organic and free of chemicals. This is good. It reduces the risk of allergies and skin reactions.

6. It smells like cookies and cream flavoured ice cream.

CONS –

1. Packaging- Personally I don’t particularly like fancy packaging (when it comes to skin products that is. I saw a picture on Instagram of a soap that looked like a cupcake with Skittles or M and M toppings. It was ridiculous how much I wanted to eat it). But my dad, little brother, cousin (another one) and her mom all commented that the packaging was very basic. And so it’s here. I personally don’t mind and truth be told, prefer the basic packaging. But it’s been proven that I’m completely alone where this is concerned. I’ll simply say- Great packaging enhances value. (Wrapped birthday and Christmas presents set my heart thumping in glee)

2. Lack of registration – I’m one of those people who pores over the ingredient list in cream bottles. I locate the ingredient I need and look out so I don’t mistakenly buy a cream that has collagen or bleaching agents. I already know that the product list is organic and eminently eatable (yes I know that the correct word is edible). But I confess I wanted to read about it too.

THE SOAP SCRUB

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PROS

1. SIZE and PRICE: The soap scrub comes in a 550g pot (I’m using pot because I think I’ve used jar a little too much already). The pot like its counterpart is unlabeled (for now). When I saw it I had to ask about it. But for N1500 and given the value I’ve gotten, I’d go for it.

2. Multiplicity of Usage: I didn’t bother to ask her whether I could use it on my hair. I already knew the products were all natural and I’d read on a blog; Osemhen’s, that black soap is a good and inexpensive shampoo. I’d also read that it’s good to exfoliate your scalp. So when I took my braids out I went a-washing. The foam I got from 2 fingerfuls was gigantic enough. I’ll probably use it as a scalp exfoliant for up to 2 years. That’s not an exaggeration. (Sorry, I forgot to take a picture of the foam). And when I was done washing my hair, it had never felt cleaner. As a body exfoliant also it was good. But I loved it a lot more on my hair.

3. PACKAGING: Here it’s an advantage. It’s a big jar and round with it. Kind of like mayonnaise but without the narrow arch at the top. It makes dipping easier and I’d really hate to have to squeeze out an exfoliant when my head (and eyes) are upside down.

CONS

1. NO LABELLING: I would have really loved to taste it to confirm my suspicion that it was brown sugar that gave it it’s “scrubbiness”. But (a) soap (b) I’m afraid it might be salt. And all of this could have been prevented if I had just been able to read the ingredient list.

Stephanie herself blogs at http://dreamintoreality.wordpress.com
Her BBM channel is COO2B7A07 (CEEOHOHTWOBEESEVENAYZEROSEVEN) because lawyers draft in words and then write in figures :). If you’re on BBM, you can start a chat with her and place your orders.
And her phone number is 08166243282 (ZeeoEightOnesixsixtwo… You get my point)
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Blog recommendation:
http://tworiversblog.com/2016/01/12/the-way-of-the-master/. It’s a totally amazing article.