Wedding Playlist Suggestions 3

I fell madly in love with this song the first time I heard it. It’s dancy (yes, that’s a word. Made up, but still a word) but it is still such an awesome song.

I’ve posted it on here before actually. Scroll down to Bunmi’s wedding ceremony ( And Now, Ebube).

But once again, here we are: 

I Do- Drew Seeley

I see the world for you and me
I hear a perfect harmony
Where you are is where I’m gonna be
I’m gonna be…

Forever, could never be enough
Together, it’s all I need for us
When the rain is pouring down
And there’s no else around
I’ll be your shelter now

And I’ll be the one 
You can run to 
I’ll be the one
Who’s meant to love you now…
And always till our days are through

You know I do
You know I do
Time to say the words
Never been so sure
Wanna spend my life with you

Hmm hmm hmm yeah…

There’s a match for every heart
There’s a light for every dark
With you I found my counter part
My counter part

Forever, could never be enough
Together, it’s all I need for us
When the rain is pouring down
And there’s no else around
I’ll be your shelter now
Ohh

And I’ll be the one 
You can run to 
I’ll be the one
Who’s meant to love you now…
And always till our days are through

You know I do
You know I do
Time to say the words
Never been so sure
Wanna spend my life with you [2x]

Forever, could never be enough
Together, it’s all I need for us
When the rain is pouring down
And there’s no else around
I’ll be your shelter now

And I’ll be the one 
You can run to 
I’ll be the one
Who’s meant to love you now…
And always till our days are through

You know I do
You know I do
Time to say the words
Never been so sure
Wanna spend my life with you [2x]
(You know I do)

It’s a fantastic song. I can’t recommend it enough.

Vote of thanks:

http://www.azlyrics.com for the lyrics.

Wattpad Recommendations

True North- Kate J. Squires/ blondeanddangerous. Fantastic book. There are lots of naughty bits, but you can do like me, and skip those.

Guarded Hope and Waiting for Hope- 4thpowermama. Really nice books. Surprising too.

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​Of old friends, newly minted acquaintances and LASTMA

        About 2 weeks back, Nedoux called to invite me for an event. As I had nothing else to do on that day, and I’d been on the lookout for an opportunity to go to the island to meet up with some old friends, I accepted.
I’m not going to gush too much but the parts I stayed for were so so lovely. I met up with my friends too. But the highlight of the day for me were the people I met and the snacks I ate. The gifts as well and I got to see my friends. So, pretty much the whole day made it on the highlight reel.

A huge shoutout must go to the following people-

Chinedu “Nedoux” Ahanonu- amazing blogger, kind of big sister, generally fun human being. Thanks for inviting me.

Tosin Alabi –  Nice person. Friendly too. I unilaterally banned her from answering any more questions during the trivia game, cos she kept on getting em right. Still, the bag and the slippers were very very well deserved.

Adaeze – Was a classic case of don’t judge a blogger by the preconceived notion you’ve had of them. I always pictured her as demure and quiet. She is not. At all. She made me laugh more than once and I loved her outfit for the day, especially her bag, purse more like, that was so dainty and tiny, I’m surprised it was functional. And white trousers too. Really awesome sense of style. Great writer. Thanks for my necklace by the way.

Chinelo – Didn’t interact too much with her but she seemed nice.

Uzoma – Nice lady. Bit quiet, awesome with the camera. 

Amaka – We already met. Her blog is quite amazing, check it out for thrifty ideas.
Ogo- Stylist. Super friendly. She had on this satiny white shirt and a wide legged pant with slits on. I’m not much for wide legged pants, but i think I may duplicate it at some point.
Yanmife, Ifemide and Ibukun- Yanmife had that mischievous vibe going for him. The Uju part of my personality likes mischievous people. Ifemide was quiet and helpful. He got along great with the Obi part of me. Ibukun and I didn’t interact very much but he seemed nice enough.

Also, my inner fan girl was freaking out. I met Afrolems in the flesh! Awesome human being by the way. We share a mutual dislike of avocados. The only difference being that she’s gotten over her dislike enough to incorporate it in recipes and I; still hate the smell.

The food and drinks:

Cafe Neo’s pineapple and ginger juice is the bomb.com. It’s quite amazing. 
My friend also bought Bailey’s chin chin at Cafe Neo and I tasted it. Very nice, great idea.

12 baskets did not disappoint with their small chops. I especially liked the peppery spring rolls.

Wilson’s Lemonade was completely on point, as always.

My brother adored SoYummy’s caramel popcorn. I liked it too even though I don’t really like caramel.

Afrolems’ gizdodo was so amazingly tender! And a work of art, presentation wise.

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I facilitated a 3 way swap for this necklace. Worth it.

I can’t wait to use this!
Check Yes, LASTMA. Thanks Chinedu!

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Frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn

Hi everyone,

(Adaezenwa, you especially)

*This post is all over the place. Try to read. Try to understand. Try to leave some feedback if you read and understood. Just try.

Since I was born, my greatest struggle has been with apathy. I can work really hard for something and the second I get it, I feel no pride, no sense of achievement, just a wish to be left alone. I could say it’s because of my brother’s many illnesses and eventual death, but I really don’t want to be someone who blames their childhood for everything they ever go through. It’s massively annoying.

And I just have no more desire to psychoanalyze and research on myself. I have a full notebook of work done for myself and by myself in 2014 where I was both the patient and the psychologist and right now, I don’t want to go back to that. It was as exhausting as all things having to do with the mind are.

One of the major reasons I became a lawyer was so I could ask the questions and not be on the receiving end of the questions being asked. But your family will not let you off the hook so easily, neither will your friends, neither will the people you meet on your blog, asking you at intermittent intervals why you haven’t gotten off your ass to post something for them to read (Side eying Adaezenwa). 
But I understand their points. Really. I pride myself on being a logical person. I pride myself on my ability to think through problems and come up with proper, logical solutions.Which is why I have a problem with being constantly apathetic. It’s so against the idea I have in my head of myself. I remember, I actually went to church to get counseling for it. The pastor in question didn’t, probably couldn’t really help me. He just fixated on one thing out of the many fears I spewed and counselled me about that part. He helped me though, a little bit but now that advice is null and void.

My constant apathy has not gone unnoticed by many people. I have had 2 friends be extremely depressed, and I know the constant fear that comes with the worry about them. The worry that they’ll decide that life is not worth living and seek to end it. The worry that they’ll make stupid decisions. The worry that they won’t give themselves time to see if it can get better. I know the worry. And I know that fear.And I know that some felt that worry and that fear for me.

So I decided to flip it. And get interested. In everything. And everyone. Factual report, that shit gets tiring, fast. And it takes more out of you than you would logically want to give.

For instance, my memory. If you’d asked me a year ago how my memory was, I’d have said it was good, way too good. I could remember everything about someone if I focused on them and talked with them long enough. Full names including middle names, favorite foods, preferred names for future offspring, birthdays (I couldn’t forget a roommate’s dad’s birthday for 3 years. And I never even met the man), likes, dislikes, bad habits, fears. Everything they ever told me even in passing, I’d remember. These days, I have trouble remembering family members’ birthdays. I don’t know when I stopped caring about remembering people but I know I stopped. I’ve chalked it up to consequences of being a fake. So now, I sync people’s birthdays with my Calendar app because, although an eidetic memory for acquaintances’ birthdays and likes and dislikes was impressive, it does not change the fact that I have to remember my family members birthdays.

The title of this post is misleading, really. I thought about naming it, This is what you do when you can’t muster up enough mental energy to care although you’d like to but that name was way too long and then, I remembered the famous last words of Rhett Butler in Gone with the Wind, a movie mind you that I have not watched ever, although I did read the book, and it incited my mischievous instincts so I thought, why not that? Res ipsa.

Adaezenwa wrote about prioritizing and a scale of preference in her post and I smiled because I remembered that from Mrs. Ajayi’s economics class. This is my scale of preference.

I will try to remember my family members birthdays and not be so hard on myself for forgetting the birthday of an ex roommate I hardly talk to anymore.

I will try to give more people my number and if said people create a maelstrom of relationship drama after one date, I will not allow myself be caught up in their drama because I am trying to compensate for not having too many relationships or because people want me to get married and start producing children that I cannot yet afford. I am the master of my fate, the captain of my destiny and if I don’t like what I see after a set time, I will give myself the freedom to block their numbers and not feel guilty about it.

I will build up my stock portfolio, my savings and my investment accounts meticulously, I will get a pension account started as soon as possible and I will give to the charities that draw my attention where I can. I will not be guilted into giving anything that I can’t afford because my mind plays tricks on me.

Since I am almost fully bored with Telemundo and TV in general, I will not spend my time exclusively on Wattpad reading books that do not benefit me, instead I will keep downloading and sewing new designs and surprising myself whenever and wherever I can, exercising more regularly, actively starting conversations with friends, getting more online degrees, maybe even writing a Wattpad novel of my own.

I will write more of my thoughts on my blog. Because what is a personal blog where readers are not encouraged to know the owner? And I will not get jealous of Adaezewrites.com or Achalugowrites.com or chynanu.wordpress.com or kacheetee.com or Nedoux.com or eurekanaija.com or livelytwist.com because I envy the way they write. Instead I will improve on my content and write in my own rambly, messy way because no amount of envy will change the fact that I have my own unique voice and it is my responsibility to develop it.

I will try to go to church more often, try to evangelize more often, try to live like a true Christian. And shine my light and my life for the God who gave and who gives me everything, even when I really really don’t want or deserve His effort.

I will be a better employee, a better friend, a better role model. A better human being.

And if I come back to this list in the future and find out that I haven’t done as much as I would have liked, I will not give up on it and conclude that my apathy has struck again, I will try again and again until I become the better person I dream of being.

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